The time has come to plan the wedding. The Bride is all excited and bubbly with dreamy ideas, but often there is less enthusiasm expressed by the groom. They arrive at the church. The minister welcomes the bridal couple to his office. They sit and begin discussing the wedding. The groom appears a bit fidgety.
The groom responds, “I do not really why I am here.”
This is a fairly common situation. While girls may dream of their wedding day for a lifetime, most boys only come to consider the wedding as a means to marriage. It is often an afterthought. As a result many grooms feel awkward, unprepared, even threatened by this experience.
As the groom approaches their wedding with all the planning, social gatherings, and fanfare there can be many stresses and strains encountered. Relationships often experience extreme pressures during this time. In many ways, how these pressures, stresses, and strains are managed can affect not only the wedding itself but marriage and extended relationships for years.
How can the groom strengthen his marriage and thrive throughout the wedding?
To begin with, are you really sure you want to get married? You better be. You commitment to your bride and marriage is vital to your future. Grab hold of your commitment and keep it fresh in your thoughts.
Next, consider it your mission to accept and understand your bride. Give her every consideration for her dreams, desires, hopes, fears, and concerns. Listen intently.
Then, let love flow through your words, actions, and attitudes. In spite of all the business and activity make certain you bride knows your love. Tell her, show her, and prove your love to her and her family.
Be patient with your bride and yourself. Be patient with the activities, decision making, and social events.
No fighting. No complaining. No outbursts. Listen and consider the feelings of others. Even if you become upset, speak softly and avoid making fire crackers into A bombs. Careless harsh words destroy.
Tip 6, express sincere appreciation. We teach our children to say thank you, but as adults we often forget this very important courtesy. During the stresses and business of your wedding, let everyone know you really appreciate them and their efforts. Especially, express your appreciation to your bride and her family.
Tip 7, avoid getting distracted. Suddenly, you are surrounded by people all with their own ideas, desires, and interests. Many stories have been told of bridesmaids who have flirted with the groom, and caused endless problems. Make certain that you remain focused on your bride and refuse to be distracted by others.
Eighth, avoid demanding your own way. Although your bride may have dreamed of her wedding for years, you still have strong options. However, if you minimize your expectations and moderate your need for control and domination; your bride will be much happier and the wedding will proceed far more smoothly.
Tip 9, when it comes to your own personal indulgences, moderate yourself. Avoid excesses. Alcohol is commonly associated with celebration, but it is also often associated with very negative experiences. Moderation and self discipline can do much to prevent calamity.
This is you moment. Enjoy it! Enjoy love! Enjoy your bride! Enjoy the dreams, hopes, and expectations of marriage. Your wedding is for you to enjoy!